In case you were unsure, love isn’t just about candy, presents, and sex with boyfriends and girlfriends—or other people’s boyfriends and girlfriends, or drunken strangers you pick up at V-Day singles events. Even more so than Christmas (because at least this holiday commercializes something everyone can believe in), Valentine’s Day is a time to think about others. You know, others. Everybody outside your Facebook network.

For instance, I spent today at a volunteers-and-alumni reunion for Camp Heartland, a summer camp for NYC families who are living with HIV/AIDS. It was a sweet reminder of how people in this city are so often good to one another. Like that remarkably bus-route-savvy woman who helped three different people find their ways home when the E train went screwy last weekend.

Start thinking about how you can spread the love too. Need ideas? See Own This City’s Cause of the week.

And I don’t care if you call me corny.